Better Together

When we get married, we have this vauge understanding that two now become one and we are to love and cherish that person until death do us part. Over the past few months, my view of my vows and my role as wife have shifted my focus from doing to being.

Now hear me out. I think most women can relate to feeling like the world is on their shoulders. The to-do lists are never ending and the demands of little people also aren't becoming endangered any time soon. On top of all of this we are women hear us roar...right? Women have the capability to do it all. I'm not saying men aren't really awesome, but I'm just saying when sickness hits a household mom is still all hands on deck. Mom brains are constantly in gear and in tune to the emotional, spirutual, and physical needs of our people that sometimes we forget it's okay to want help. Heck, it's okay to NEED help.

Point being, the "do-er" in me fratincly folds all the laundry while holding a nursing baby and attempting to open an orange for a needy toddler because so help me this house will be clean and these children will be contained by the time my man walks through that door.

But, here comes the learning curve part. The part of the equation that involves way less doing and way more being. You know, being kind, being fun, being present, and being available! I can't be the only one who after all that doing and usage of my mental capacity I find myself exsaughsted, frustrated, and frankly no fun to be around after the never ending list is all said and done. This quickly spirals me into a victim mentally which lands me and my husband on different ends of the field. Opposite teams. Which we all know, never ends well.

After this epiphany, I have spent more time purposely and intentionally loving my little people and focusing on ONE task at a time. I know for dang sure my husband would rather help fold laundry then deal have a clean house with a moody mama.

So join me in doing the little things together. You would be absolutely amazed how much it takes off of your plate when you commit to helping each other and not bearing the weight of something that isn't meant for one person to carry.

We are better together this I know for the Bible tells me so ;)